by Tim Schlensker, M.A. REGISTERED MARRIAGE AND FAMILY THERAPIST INTERN
Thank God for all His provisions to us in this season and all year!
I thought I might take some time to “dig in” to something that most, if not all, of us take for granted almost every day.
Giving thanks is something that is by nature 'other-serving' right? Since it's a response to something that someone else did to serve us...from our barista’s masterfully crafted latte, to the heartfelt gift from our spouse.
It Also has Some Positive Outcome for Our Own Peace of Mind as Well...
It puts our focus on the one who was kind to us. By recognizing what they have done for us, we mentally reinforce that we are cared for by them and others. This truth is one that people living within families may not notice because it’s always there for us. For those of us living on our own however, far away from family or away at college, even in roommate situations, knowing that we are cared for by others means a great deal more.
In placing that focus on the other we are getting outside of our own head for a moment, starting to put the world in perspective, rather than thinking too hard about what we do or don't, are or aren't, have or lack. Being thankful is not just for the item or service we receive, but it is the spirit of gratitude with which we approach life. Seeing through this lens of gratitude helps us to remain engaged with others and resist some of the temptation we feel to isolate.
Positive social skills, even these simple ones, are much rarer than you might imagine. The world is quickly inheriting a self-absorbed, overdeveloped sense of entitlement. Common courtesy is not so common; humanity is losing its humanity. As the world moves further away from acknowledging the God of the universe and recognizing all that His Son has done for us between Christmas and Easter, the less this world values the spirit of gratitude.
On the other hand, the more we practice these things the more we will be able to lead others by example to be people who are kinder, more thoughtful, and more generous with things God has given to us. And I think most all of us want that.
So, in this season of Thanksgiving and all year… GIVE THANKS!!
Tim sees clients in Anaheim, Brea and Glendora. If you would like to see Tim, or any of our TPC counselors, call us at 800-998-6329 x300 to schedule a first time appointment.
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