FACTS AND FALLACIES OF INTIMACY: PART 5 — CAN I DEPEND ON YOU? YOU PROMISED...AT OUR WEDDING9/10/2014  FALLACY
My mate should always be there for me, to help me meet all my needs. That’s why we got married – to be help-mates. FACT You married a human being; these types are at times unpredictable and unhelpful. Yet, with the proper expectations your marriage can be a very enjoyable experience. Your mate can be a source of great strength, but never the source of your strength.
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My mate should understand and empathize with most everything that is important to me. If they really love me, this shouldn’t be a problem. The longer we are married the less we will have to explain things to each other. FACT As terribly inconvenient as it is, the fact of the matter is that your mate cannot read your mind. What is obvious to you is not always obvious to them – even if you have been married a long time.  FALLACY
If I let my mate know everything I’ve done and everything I think, it will always lead to rejection. FACT In most cases, your spouse already has a very good idea of who you are and your history. You aren’t as good an actor or actress as you think. There are some exceptions to this very tricky issue of "to share or not to share" in marriage.  FALLACY
Everything that goes wrong in our marriage is ALL your fault (or – ALL my fault). FACT When things go wrong in our marriage, there are times I am responsible for the problem and times you are. Frequently, we both have some contribution to the problems that we face. We both share some responsibility in working together to solve most of the problems we face.  FALLACY
If I become emotionally, spiritually and romantically involved in a courting relationship, or in marriage - it will always lead to me losing myself and becoming someone I don’t really want to be. I will have to live a false life. FACT Healthy dating relationships and healthy marriages enhance the person you were created to be. These relationships will champion your causes and provide support for your life dreams.  by Drs. Peter Robbins & Kevin Downing
Jesus Christ was a tremendous disappointment to most everyone who knew and loved Him at one time or another. Consider the following: A Savior who never freed God's people from the oppressive Roman rule of His day. A Chosen One who began to wipe out human hunger with five loaves of bread and two fish, but who quickly gave it up...  Dr. Peter Robbins, Ph.D.
How long, Lord, must I call for help, but you do not listen? Or cry out to you, “Violence!” but you do not save? Why do you make me look at injustice? Why do you tolerate wrongdoing? Destruction and violence are before me; there is strife, and conflict abounds. - Habakkuk 1:2-3 Scripture as a Weapon In I Corinthians 11:3 we are told... Have you ever been a relationship that didn't go well? How about the one you're in right now? Is it working for you? How about someone you care about and their relationship with someone else. Does it hurt just to watch them be together? In this short video Dr. Robbins will show you three kinds of relationships. Two that are high maintenance and one that isn't.
Did you know there are three kinds of people in the world. Two you want to be with, the third kind you don't.
Are you hanging around the right kind of folks? What if the wrong kind is a relative? Then what? Watch this engaging video by Dr. Peter Robbins and learn how to deal with toxic relationships. |
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